Often there are people in our lives who are really talkative and amiable. You feel that they completely understand you. You feel that they are the ‘Forever’ person and woosh! They leave without telling you anything. They leave for no reason. They first drop a few hints and then they drop a bomb. They cut off all contacts. They vanish as if they were not real.
It’s so easy for us to label them as the ‘people who remember you until they need you’ or the ‘I love you, till I find someone better’ kind. At times we are wrong. Many times, my posts echo the fact that we cannot put people in predefined boxes, we just can’t, and this post is one of them too. You might call them stupid. You might call them emotionless. You might call them selfish. But let me call them a few names too!
The truth is that they love people. They love making friends. They love it when they have fun, when they make someone smile or laugh. But they just can’t promise commitment. Commitment is not just for love, it’s for every damn relationship that has to last.
They love painting others’ lives. They have Color bombs called ’empathy’ and ‘acceptance’; that almost everyone tends to trust them and love them instantly and when they leave, they shatter many hearts. They know that they hurt people when they leave, deep down they regret doing so. It feels pathetic to ignore or avoid someone, if you are an empath, just like it feels pathetic to be ignored. They continue to wish they were friends with this person or that. But they always feel that the person they are leaving deserves better, deserves more as far as friendship is concerned. They know that they cannot promise to be friends forever, and hence they cut strings. Sooner or later, they do.
I know it’s really difficult for us to accept them. We feel cheated, we feel used. Specially the sincere ones, who give their 💯% in a friendship. They wouldn’t have ever had a thought that the person they told everything about their life yesterday will leave all of a sudden; but they are at least better than the ones who fake it. They are atleast being honest to you and to themselves. Again dear friends, they are very few. Maybe two hundred, or maybe just two. But the next time someone does leave without a reason (God forbid) you have the right to curse them for doing so, but you shouldn’t forget that after seven years, when you would have forgotten them, they are somewhere stalking your Facebook profile and smiling that you have now accomplished your dreams. They do love you, believe me.
We humans are complicated creatures, and complicated are human ties, strings of emotions, isn’t it?