I’ll begin with a story. My aunt’s driver let’s call him V, had been to the airport to pick up my brother and my mother. When he was waiting, two random well built men came and beat him up. Do you want to know what was his fault? He was using his mobile phone. The girls accompanying them claimed that he was clipping them. Later, after he was beaten, the crowd realised that his phone did not even have a camera! How disgusting!
I have another thing to tell you about V. V wanted to be a gym trainer. He is from Bihar. When he was going back home to meet his parents once, he was stopped by men belonging to a village on the way, and forcibly married to a girl, lest he would be killed. He has accepted that girl as his wife and has taken up his job as a full time driver to earn for her and their son.
Dear bloggers, not all guys are the same. Not all girls are the same. Not every guy who tries to help a girl wants to make her his mistress. Not every boy who gives a compliment is trying to flirt. Not every boy is a roadside Romeo. Not every guy is disrespectful. Some deserve too much respect.
I understand there are so many atrocities against women, so many rape cases. We need to take strong measures to punish those criminals. There are two basic aspects of tackling every problem- short term measures and long term. Long term includes punishment, education to change mindsets, etc. Etc. But tell me dear ladies, if your brother, father or boy friend advises you not to go out after 11 p.m., not to mess with rowdies and morons, are they snatching your freedom and have a disgusting mindset? Can they not request you to do so much as a short term, temporary measure to protect you? I give these advices to my younger brother, not because I think he is weak, because I value him a lot. It’s definitely your choice, but your choices affect many people, you are responsible for your choices, but ironically, many are blamed, many bear the consequences.
I support feminism. I support entry of ladies to temples. I support cruel punishment for rapes. I support equal rights for girls. I support education for girl child, girls learning martial arts.
But, I oppose psedo feminism. I oppose victimization of boys at work places. I oppose reservation for girls in learning institutions. I support education for everyone, including boys. I support schemes for farmers as well as their widowed wives.
Because I am a sister whose brother was slapped by a teacher in first standard for slapping a girl who called him butt!
Because I am a student to a gentleman (he is not R) who was once wrongly accused for attempt to rape. Luckily, that dumb girl didn’t know about cameras.
Because I am an aunt to a little boy who is always told boys don’t cry.
And most importantly, because I’m a contemporary girl who has an opinion, who doesn’t write to impress someone or hurt someone, who can set aside her ego to apologize in case this post hurt you.